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When a parent is told they have dementia, it can feel confusing and stressful. You might have lots of questions about how to help them. This article gives you easy tips on how to make things better.

Knowing how dementia changes the brain and using simple strategies can help you make your loved one’s life safer and more comfortable. By coping with a parent with dementia effectively, you can improve the experience for both you and your parent, making each day a bit more manageable.

Understanding Dementia

Dementia is a condition that gradually affects how someone thinks, remembers, and interacts with others, often making daily routines more difficult. It’s not a specific disease but a collection of symptoms resulting from various conditions. 

Alzheimer’s disease is the most common cause, leading to changes in brain function that result in memory loss and challenges with everyday tasks. Other types of dementia can also affect behavior, thinking, and emotions, requiring specialized care and support.

How Does Dementia Affect the Brain?

Dementia changes the brain by impacting how you remember, think, and act. As dementia gets worse, it often makes it harder for older adults to remember things that just happened, like recent events or conversations. This condition can cause worry for them and stress for their family members. 

In dementia, nerve cells in specific areas of the brain become damaged and lost, particularly affecting those that control memory and reasoning. This makes it harder for the brain to process information, leading to difficulties with daily activities and communication. Knowing about these changes can help you support your loved one better and manage what to expect.

Types of Dementia

Dementia comes in several types, each affecting people differently:

Alzheimer’s Disease

Alzheimer’s is probably the one people hear about most. It usually starts subtly—maybe someone forgets recent conversations or misplaces things more often than usual. Over time, it can really impact daily routines, relationships, and independence as thinking and memory continue to decline.

Vascular Dementia

Vascular dementia often follows strokes or mini-strokes, and it’s closely tied to blood flow issues in the brain. People might notice trouble with concentration, planning, or decision-making. The changes can feel sudden or creep in slowly, depending on how the brain’s been affected.

Lewy Body Dementia

This type can be especially tough because it mixes memory problems with vivid visual hallucinations and movement issues, kind of like Parkinson’s. Someone might see things that aren’t there or have trouble walking smoothly. The symptoms can fluctuate from day to day, which can be confusing for both the person and their loved ones.

Frontotemporal Dementia

Frontotemporal dementia tends to show up a bit earlier in life, and it usually hits personality and language first. Someone who was once outgoing might become withdrawn or behave inappropriately, or they might start struggling to find the right words. It’s a different kind of heartbreak because it can change who a person seems to be.

Early Warning Signs of Dementia

Early warning signs of dementia can vary, but common indicators include:

  • Memory Loss. Someone with dementia might forget things that just happened, ask the same questions, or lose things often.
  • Difficulty with Tasks. Finding it hard to do familiar tasks, like cooking a favorite meal or completing routine work assignments.
  • Language Problems. Having difficulty finding the right words to say or understanding what others are saying in conversations.
  • Disorientation. Unable to recognize familiar places or forget the time and date.
  • Poor Judgment. Making decisions that are uncharacteristic or risky.
  • Misplacing Items. Frequently forgetting where things were put and not being able to remember where they might be.
  • Changes in Mood. Experiencing mood swings, confusion, or signs of depression.
  • Social Withdrawal. Avoiding social activities and interactions.
  • Personality Changes. Noticeable shifts in personality or behavior.

Dealing With a Parent With Dementia

When someone gets a dementia diagnosis, it’s important to focus on support and understanding in key areas:

Communication

  • Use Simple Words. Speak clearly and use easy words so they can understand better.
  • Speak Slowly. Talk at a slow pace to give them time to understand.
  • Limit Distractions. Turn off the TV and other noises so they can focus on you.
  • Use Visual Cues. Use gestures or write things down to help explain your message.

Creating a Safe Environment

  • Use Nightlights. Put nightlights in hallways and bathrooms to help prevent falls at night.
  • Tidy Up. Keep rooms clean and organized to reduce confusion and prevent accidents.
  • Label Cabinets. Put labels on cupboards and drawers to make it easier for them to find things.
  • Add Safety Features. Install grab bars in bathrooms and secure rugs to stop slips and falls.

Supporting Their Daily Activities

  • Establish a Routine. Establish a regular daily routine to offer structure and reduce anxiety.
  • Assist With Dressing. Offer help with selecting clothing, but encourage them to dress independently when possible.
  • Use Incontinence Pads. Consider these if necessary to help manage any issues discreetly.
  • Encourage Independence. Support them in doing tasks on their own while being ready to assist if needed.
  • Provide Finger Foods. Offer easy-to-eat snacks to make meals simpler and enjoyable.

Managing Challenging Dementia Behaviors

  • Stay Calm. If they get upset or ask the same questions a lot, stay calm to keep things relaxed.
  • Reassure Them. Use a gentle touch and a calm voice to comfort them and make them feel secure.
  • Do Fun Activities. Give them activities like simple regular exercises to help them feel good.
  • Help Them Relax. Make the place peaceful and use music or familiar things to help them feel calm.

Activities for People With Dementia

  • Puzzles and Games. Simple puzzles or card games that match their ability level can be enjoyable and stimulating.
  • Music and Singing. Listening to favorite songs or singing can boost mood and evoke memories.
  • Art and Crafts. Painting, coloring, or simple crafts encourage creativity and expression.
  • Walking and Nature. Gentle walks in a garden or park offer exercise and a calming environment.
  • Reminiscing. Looking at photo albums or talking about past experiences can provide comfort and connection.
  • Gardening. Light gardening tasks or caring for indoor plants can be soothing and rewarding.
  • Cooking/Baking. Simple, guided cooking activities can bring joy and a sense of achievement.

What Resources Are Available?

Join Support Groups

Support groups are a powerful way to feel less alone in what can be an overwhelming journey. Whether you meet in person or join a virtual group, connecting with others who “get it” can bring both comfort and practical advice. Hearing others’ stories often gives perspective—and sometimes, the laugh or tear you didn’t know you needed.

Online Forums

Forums offer a 24/7 space where you can ask questions, vent, or just read through the experiences of others. You’ll often find real talk here—strategies that have worked, things people wish they’d known sooner, and even shared moments of grief or hope. It’s like having a collective journal, open whenever you need it.

Dementia Hotline

The Alzheimer’s Association helpline (800.272.3900) is staffed around the clock with trained professionals who truly listen. Whether you’re in crisis, looking for resources, or just need to talk something through at 3 a.m., they’re there. It’s free, confidential, and grounded in compassion and knowledge.

Professional Dementia Care

Memory care facilities are built with your loved one’s safety and dignity in mind. Staff are trained to understand dementia’s many layers, and they offer routines and activities that can spark joy, calm, or connection. Making that decision isn’t always easy, but having the right support can make a world of difference.

Involve Other Family Members

Caring for someone with dementia shouldn’t fall on one set of shoulders. Ask family members to help with specific tasks—maybe someone handles doctor visits, while another takes care of groceries or bills. Talking openly about the load you’re carrying can help everyone step up in their own way.

How Do You Take Care of Yourself?

Taking care of yourself is also key to being an effective caregiver:

  • Take Care of Your Health. Look after your health by focusing on your physical and mental well-being to prevent burnout.
  • Engage in Self-Care. Set aside time for activities you enjoy, like reading, walking, or hobbies, to recharge your energy.
  • Use Respite Care. Consider respite care options to take necessary breaks, allowing you time to rest and rejuvenate.
  • Ask for Help. Reach out for help from friends, family, or support groups. Having a strong support network benefits both you and your parents.

Choose Compassionate Dementia Care For Your Family!

Caring for a loved one with dementia doesn’t have to be a solo journey. By learning how to deal with a parent with early dementia and using available resources, you can help improve your parent’s life.

At Stone Bridge Senior Living, we offer special care for people with memory problems. Our caring team makes sure your loved one is safe and comfortable. Get in touch with us to see how we can help your family and take good care of your loved one.